The best kinky sex ideas

Kinky: that word undoubtedly immediately arouses a lot of curiosity in you. But what exactly does kinky mean and why is it so popular in the bedroom? For some, this sex term may sound a bit scary, but for others it is an exciting way to break the boring routine under the sheets and take their sex life to a whole new and better level. 

In this article we will delve deeper into what kinky means and share a series of exciting ideas and facts that can give your sex life a big boost.

 

What is kinky?

Before we can dive headfirst into the world of kinky sex ideas together, it's important to understand what 'kinky' actually means. Kinky mainly refers to sexual activities outside of traditional sex. This type of intercourse is about exploring desires and fantasies that are normally considered 'taboo' or strange. 

Kinky sex can include light, playful activities as well as more intense, dominant and submissive role-play. Perhaps this is all still unknown territory for you, but we will deal with that later in this article. Please be patient...

The great thing about kinky sex is that it is completely based on mutual consent, communication and respect. Communication is really essential and both partners should feel comfortable with the sexual activities throughout the entire adventure. 

With that said, let's take a look at some exciting ideas to add some spice to your bedroom adventures. Let's go!

Some examples of kinky sex

1. SM (Sadomasochism)

SM is one of the most famous and popular kinky sex activities for many. This form of kinky sex involves elements of dominance and submission, where one partner takes control of the other who submits and acts submissively. SM varies from gentle spanking to more intense activities, such as bondage.

2. Bondage

In bondage you tie up your partner, or vice versa. You can do this with handcuffs, ropes, scarves or other specific bondage equipment. For some people, it is exciting to give complete control to the partner, or to have control over his/her movements.

3. Dirty Talk

Verbal communication can also be very exciting. This includes expressing your desires and fantasies. The explicit language can quickly heat up the atmosphere in the bedroom. So dirty talk is a really great way to discover what you both enjoy.

4. Blindfolded

A 'simple' blindfold can do wonders to stimulate your senses and take your sex life to new heights. Covering your eyes stimulates your other senses extra, such as your touch and hearing.

5. Role play

Role-playing allows you to step into the shoes of someone else and explore your wildest fantasies and make them come true. Maybe you want to be the sexy nurse who takes care of the 'sick' patient, or the hot police officer who cuffs the bad guy. The choice is yours, and remember: no idea is too crazy with mutual consent!

What can also be classified as role-playing is dressing up. For many people, putting on special costumes or sexy lingerie increases sexual tension. Think of seductive outfits such as a nurse uniform, police uniform or a sexy schoolgirl costume. Here too, no idea is too crazy.

6. Spanking

Spanking can be either pleasurable or painful, depending on the intensity and desire of both partners. This form of kinky sex is an exciting mix of sensation and pleasure.

7. Looking at each other while masturbating

Looking at each other while masturbating can be very intimate and exciting. This is because sharing your most intimate moments with each other strengthens the connection and bond between you and your partner.

8. Use warm oil

A sensual and erotic massage with warm oil reduces your stress and increases excitement. The gliding and pleasant feeling of the warm oil on the skin provides a wonderful erotic adventure.

9. Leave the window and curtains open

If you really like a rush, try leaving the curtains and windows open while you have intercourse. This brings an extra element of tension, knowing that others might catch you or see you.

10. Outdoor sex

Outdoor sex is a great way to escape the standard bedroom routine. Whether in the woods, on the beach or 'just' in your own backyard: nature adds extra excitement to your sexual experience.

11. Using sex toys

Sex toys are a fantastic addition to your sex life. From vibrators to handcuffs, there are countless toys to give each other extra pleasure.

12. Watching porn together

Watching porn movies together can provide new sex ideas. Watching porn together often also leads to open conversations about what you like and what you are curious about. 

 

13. A trio

A threesome is an exciting fantasy and dream of many men and women. It is important to be careful and to have a good conversation first if you want to take this step. This way you ensure a successful trio that you will often think about.

14. Sexy lingerie

Wearing sexy lingerie often increases your self-confidence and increases seduction. So invest in some beautiful and exciting sets that will completely dazzle your partner.

Kinky clothing ideas

Kinky sex is often accompanied by kinky and special clothing. So here are some ideas for exciting and kinky outfits for you:

Latex : Tight latex clothing adds a shiny and exciting element to your sex life.

Leather : Leather clothing, such as corsets, harnesses and leather pants radiate dominance and sexual energy. These garments not only feel great, they also look very tempting!

Kinky lingerie : There are countless lingerie sets that are specially designed for kinky sex games. Think of open cups, masks, suspender belts and much more. Kinky lingerie is both concealing and revealing, depending on what you and your partner prefer.

BDSM Harnesses : Harnesses are not only functional, they also add a visual bonus to your sex experience. BDSM harnesses range from tight leather harnesses to sophisticated chain collars.

Corsets : Corsets are often associated with vintage and older porn films. They not only provide a sexy look, but can also help to accentuate the feminine waist.

Uniforms : Nurse uniforms, police uniforms or school costumes are the best-known choices for roleplay and add an extra form of excitement to your sex life.

Stockings and suspenders : What cannot be missed are the classic suspender belts in combination with sexy stockings. 

Collars and chains : No, collars and chains are definitely not just for pets! They provide an opportunity to create dominance and submission and create an exciting atmosphere.

Kinky - Also a well-known escort platform

In addition to exploring kinky sex within your relationship, there is also an entire industry dedicated to offering these types of services through online escort platforms. These platforms offer the opportunity to look for professional escorts and book services that meet your kinky fantasies. So it's up to you whether you realize your kinky fantasies with your partner, or with someone else.

The psychology of kinky sex

Kinky sex is more than just physical acts. This form of sex also has profound psychological aspects. This way it can serve as a kind of outlet for your sexual desires and fantasies. 

Kink can increase your sense of self-expression and freedom, making you feel more in touch with your true desires, needs and partner. Kinky sex often helps strengthen the emotional bond between partners because it requires open communication and each other's trust.

Sexologists are happy to emphasize the importance of mutual consent and safety in kinky sex. Agreeing on certain words or signals is essential to indicate your boundaries to each other and ensure that you both feel comfortable during the activities.

Deepening into BDSM

As we wrote before, BDSM is one of the most popular forms of kinky sex. BDSM, an abbreviation for Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism and Masochism, is not without reason one of the most complex and exciting forms of kinky sex. 

This is all about balancing power and control between partners, with roles clearly defined in advance. Below you will find a brief overview of some core concepts within BDSM:

Dominance and submission: The dominant partner is given full control during BDSM activities and the submissive partner must obey. This is often accompanied by role play and bondage.

Sadism and masochism: Sadists derive pleasure from inflicting pain, while masochists derive pleasure from receiving pain. The intensity varies from light spanking to more intense pain games.

Bondage and discipline: Bondage is all about tying up the submissive partner, while discipline is about punishing and receiving rewards within the context of the game being played.

The key word during BDSM is 'play'. All these sexual activities should be performed carefully according to each other's boundaries. Only in this way can fun and excitement be generated. Remember that the safety of both partners always comes first.

Communication is key

Successfully applying kinky sex in your relationship first starts with open and honest communication. So talk to your partner about your desires, fantasies and boundaries. Make sure you both understand what is and is not acceptable. So create a safe space where you can talk freely with each other, because that is crucial for starting kinky sex.

Moreover, it is also important to continue communicating during the activities themselves, not just in the beginning. Check in with your partner regularly to see how he or she is feeling. You may want to push your boundaries along the way or you may need a special safe word. Such a word serves to indicate when you want to stop or need a break during the kinky game.

Kinky sex and relationships

Kinky sex is often a valuable addition to long relationships where the fire between the sheets is slowly extinguished. This form of intercourse often helps to reignite the passion and excitement in your relationship. Many couples find that discovering kinky adventures together strengthens their relationship and improves the bond with their partner. Kinky sex also helps improve communication and build a strong bond of trust.

Safety and Health

Safety always comes first during sex, especially during kinky sex adventures. This not only means being safe physically, but also emotionally and mentally. Therefore, here are some things to consider before embarking on kinky adventures:

Use of safe words: Having a safe word (and possibly a safe word) is essential to indicate when you want to stop or indicate your personal boundaries.

Knowledge and learning: If you want to try out new kinky activities, make sure you have the necessary and correct knowledge. This applies in particular to more vigorous activities that entail bodily or physical risks.

Hygiene: Always maintain good hygiene, especially during activities that require sexual contact. For example, use condoms or gloves if necessary.

Conclusion about kinky sex

Kinky sex really offers an exciting way to revive, improve, add excitement and become more intimate with your partner. The most important thing is that you are both completely comfortable and communicate clearly about your wishes and boundaries. Whether you start with some light dirty talk, bondage or want to try more adventurous roleplay: the wonderful world of kinky sex has something for everyone!