Do you recognize this? Are you in the heat of the moment and suddenly it's over. Oops! It is estimated that about 30 percent of men between the ages of 18 and 60 experience premature ejaculation at some point in their lives. So you're not the only one! Before you consider yourself a sexual failure, it is worth understanding that ejaculating too early is quite normal. In this article, we dive deeper into the underlying causes. We also cover some proven methods that help make delaying orgasm easier.

What is premature ejaculation?

Premature ejaculation is a particular form of sexual dysfunction that occurs before a man begins intercourse or less than a minute after he has started. There are no rules about when a man should ejaculate but when he ejaculates so quickly that there is no time to enjoy it we speak of premature ejaculation. Ejaculating too soon can be a frustrating experience for both the man and his partner. Once it happens more often it can affect the sex life considerably. 

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Causes of premature ejaculation

The direct cause of premature ejaculation is still unknown to this day. In the past, it was often thought that the cause of premature ejaculation was purely psychological. However, there are now a number of studies showing that beyond the psychological aspect, there is also a biological aspect at play. 

Some well-known psychological causes of premature ejaculation are:

• Poor body image
• Depression
• Stress
• Worrying about premature ejaculation
• Sexual abuse

Known biological conditions that can cause a man to cum too quickly are:

• An impaired hormone balance
• An inflammation or defect of the bladder or urethra
• Disturbed balance of substances in the brain

Now that we have listed some of the causes of premature ejaculation it is wise to check if they apply to you. If it is caused by a biological problem be wise and consult your doctor. The doctor will suggest a treatment that will get rid of your problem in no time.

Is your condition psychological it will be more difficult to solve the problem, but do not be alarmed. Fortunately, there are techniques you can apply without the need for a sex therapist or therapist. 

Delaying orgasm by the start and stop method 

This is a common and effective way to train your orgasm timing. In the start and stop method, your partner stimulates the penis until you are about to cum. Just before you are about to cum, the partner stops stimulating so that you are back in control of your orgasm. You should repeat this process about 3 times. The fourth time you continue with your partner until you reach orgasm. Repeat this exercise 3 to 4 times a week and you will see that after several weeks you will be much better able to implement orgasm delaying 

Delaying orgasm by wearing a condom 

By wearing a condom during sex, you can reduce the sensitivity of the penis just enough to maintain your erection longer without coming. There are some condoms that contain numbing agents that make the penis less sensitive. It is also possible to apply these drugs directly to the penis about 15 minutes before sex. Of course, discuss this with your doctor first. 

Delaying orgasm by masturbating 

By masturbating regularly, you get to know your body better and are able to control your orgasms. Try stopping several times just before you reach your orgasm. By doing this you train yourself to delay your orgasm. The more often you practice this the better you will be able to control your orgasms. 

Be relaxed

Several studies have concluded that anxiety and stress affect your sexual performance, and can lead to accelerated ejaculation. If you want to delay your orgasm make sure you don't worry too much about what could go wrong. Breathing exercises and meditation can help. 

Focus more on foreplay

The consequence of premature orgasm is that the man feels that he has not been able to satisfy the woman. By taking more time for foreplay you bring the woman into higher ecstasy. When you begin intercourse after this, there is a greater chance of a simultaneous orgasm. 

Delaying orgasm through distraction

When you are excited and approaching your climax, take a deep breath and think about something else for a while. Be careful not to think about something else for too long, this will completely weaken the erection, which is obviously not the intention. 

Delaying orgasm through pelvic floor exercises

By exercising your pelvic floor, you can strengthen the muscles that support the bladder that make orgasm possible. A good exercise is to tighten yourself while urinating and hold up your urine stream for 10 seconds. Then start urinating again. Try practicing this several times each day and you will find that you are more in control of your body. 

Above all, remember that getting good at sex is a skill. Learning to delay orgasms can take time. But you will find that practice makes perfect. As soon as you notice that it is not improving seek help from a professional sex therapist or consult your doctor.